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Bodies & Beauty: Made With Purpose.

Editor’s Note: Today’s intro is short & sweet. “Made With Purpose” was written by Victoriah Lienemann, and I need to read this every single day. – Lauren

Recently, I spent a blistering hot day at the pool with some of my best girlfriends. Most of the students who stay in the city for the summer spend their lazy days here, lounging by the water. I often find myself frustrated though, attempting to relax while my head is spinning with negative thoughts being shot out from all around me.

“She has such a flat stomach, I can’t believe I am even wearing a bathing suit right now.”

“Look at her long, blonde hair…she is so pretty. Guys love girls like her.”

“I wish I looked like her.”

We have all been there at one point; it seems sometimes we can never find satisfaction with ourselves. Every one of us has looked in the mirror and has seen something they dislike, or even hate. I know grown women who outwardly discuss the things they see in their reflection and want to change.

Even if it’s not spoken aloud, I can guarantee every woman at that pool was feeling the same way, including the girl with those super flat meant-for-TV abs.

Good women, I am crying out to you. What are we doing to ourselves? Why are we disgracing the very temple the good Lord gave to us?

Who decides that the girl who’s a size 6 or a size 16 is the more beautiful? Society has decided lately that everything and everyone must be skinny-sized. We have skinny jeans, which it seems only very skinny people can sport. Skinny girl diet books. Skinny this, skinny that. SkinnyGirl Margaritas and Skinny Cow ice cream, because we can’t even indulge after a long day without worrying about the calories.

Now, don’t get me wrong—skinny isn’t bad. Healthy isn’t bad! Some are blessed with an ample metabolism and they are naturally thin framed. Some work hard for their awesome figure, and for that, I applaud you. Being the size you are now, though, is perfectly acceptable. This is what society is missing; what we as good women often forget.

Any size, any shape, any color—you can be any of these, and the only puzzle piece you need to finish the completed picture is love. Confidence. Belief that you are good. You are infinitely better than good. You are made by God. Made specifically, from the color of your eyes right down to the single atoms you’re composed of.

He didn’t make the way you are for you to dislike yourself. He made you for a purpose.

Accept this. Embrace this. What one person finds ugly or out of place, another finds beautiful. If you start to see your so-called imperfections as something God included in His delicate mold, you’ll begin to see they are part of a beautiful being. You were made to change this world by spreading love and being loved in return.

I have learned through a long and strenuous battle that you are only as attractive to others as you are confident in yourself. I encourage you, honorable and courageous women, look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you’re stunning.

You have a beautiful face, a beautiful soul. You are charming, classy, admirable, and well-formed by a Creator who knew exactly what He was doing. You have been given another day and one more chance to show someone you care. Get to loving yourself and others will follow. It will turn into one vicious, magnificent circle of love.

Keep climbing this mountain, open your arms to the struggles you may have with your self esteem. You WILL reach the top.


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7 Responses

  1. After reading this, I reminded to be mindful of what/ who I'm listening to. Why do we listen to the voices around us (media, other people, etc.)? Not that they are all wrong, or wrong all the time— but have they earned the right to be in our heads and hearts all day long? These messages of criticism and guilt may be strong…but we are stronger. And the encouraging love of God is stronger. We CAN learn to tune our ears and hearts into different things. Thanks for this post!

    June 28, 2011 at 12:34 pm

  2. Beverly

    Yes your right if only we can get past the things in our everyday life that sends us messages about our bodies . I once noted that the greatest artist of all time and their Beautiful paintings lots of women some nude and the women some of their sizes were nothing like you see now.You can tell some were woman that had children. What made the paintings beautiful & now days worth alot of money? The beauty is what the painting is of and how the artist captures it~Beauty is natural, untouch by transplanted parts

    June 28, 2011 at 12:34 pm

  3. Sarah

    After I read this I cried. Not a sad cry, a good one. I am a teenager and I habe been struggling with my body ever since I could remember; I eat healthy and work out and I am still considered to be "overwieght". This article showed me that I am perfect in many ways, more ways than I thought. I now want to wear a swimsuit and be proud of my body. Thank you.

    July 9, 2011 at 12:11 am

  4. Dawn

    "well-formed by a Creator who knew exactly what He was doing", Loved this one phrase its ringing thruth in my mind. Being true to yourself will enable you to love others as God desire you to. Great post.

    September 7, 2011 at 8:34 am

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  6. bornsirius

    Thank you. I am a size 2-4 skinny girl and I often struggle with body image. I didn't used to – honestly, treatment from men brought this on. I've been struggling to pull myself out of the hole of "I'm not pretty enough" ever since. I need posts like this as a reminder.
    One thing that's hard though too is that I've also been told by men, "You're not confident enough! If you were more confident, you'd be more sexy!" It's really hard to hear that from a guy, know it's true, but feel so defeated by it because of who is saying it.

    January 22, 2012 at 1:33 am

  7. What a wonderful post! This is a message so many young (and old) women need to hear today. I am going through a bible study with some other college girls right now, and they all admit that beauty and appearance is one of the biggest lies satan invites them to bite into. I will be sharing this post with all my girls! Thank you :)
    –divinedating.org

    February 22, 2012 at 12:23 pm

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