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The Art of Change

Editor’s Note: January 1st can be difficult. With others around us posting and shouting about how amazing their last year was and how much more amazing this new year will be, our own failure can swell within us until we can hardly bear it. I don’t often write for Good Women Project, but today’s little piece is by yours truly. I blog at, and I tweet at @laurendubinsky. So much love to each of you as you rest in the old and the new, and as we all learn to perceive our constant change. – Lauren

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to fight the stagnant.

there is an art to change.

and the secret is not in the pursuit of it. or in it’s accomplishment.

but rather in the art of perceiving it.

* * *

you have moved. you have grown. you have changed. you have improved. you have become strengthened. you have learned.

you have seen. you have been. you have said.

you have created. you have chosen life. you have ended death.

you have become more beautiful. you have grown into yourself.

you are more.

there is an art to observing the change you have made.

there is an art to knowing your growth, and ending the lie in your bones that says you are right where you always have been.

it is worth your time to document your movement forward. it is worth the hour of your day to know what you have done with your time.

sometimes we must move into our past, in order to accurately see our present.

create a place on the page, in the journal, on the blog, in the portfolio, on the table, in your soul. create a place to document your change.

* * *

look at your first month of blog entries.look at your journal from three years ago.

look at your first photos.

do you see the movement?

write down the lies you used to believe.
write down the truth you know now.
write down the part of your heart you hadn’t met 5 years ago.

do you see the growth?

find your first pieces of art.
find your first songs.
find your first designs.

do you see your progress?

think about the mistakes you’ve made that will not be made again.
think about the depth of character that was lacking 10 years ago.
think about the hidden places of the old depression.

do you see the new life?

sift through your albums, your archives, your chapters.
sift through your resumes, your childhood, your classes.
sift through your failures, your accomplishes, your proofs of action.

know the growth reflected in the dissonance between the past and present – know that your present will always be your past, and soon.

* * *

he says he is faithful. to move, to carry, to nurture, to redeem, to assign purpose. he is faithful to carry onto completion the good work he began in cannot help but grow. he has not forsaken us. like a tree beside still waters, you could not cease to grow even if you so desired.

because he is the great i am.

and in him we live, we move, we have our being.

* * *

refuse the lie of stagnancy. refuse the lie of stillness. refuse the lie of hopelessness.

document your change. be encouraged. and continue to move.

happy new year, beautiful girls.

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32 Responses

  1. Asha

    I read your Editors Note, and I thought, 'how did you know?'. You hit the nail on the head. But I read your post, and your right about that too.

    I heard from God a couple days ago. I had spent the last few years wondering where I was going wrong, why didn't I have that connection with Him that everyone else had. But I've finally heard. And I think its a message for every one who reads this, and feels the same, that nothing has changed, that all those hopes and dreams and prayers we had, we have, have yet to come true.

    He is holding your hand. And the darkness is slowly lifting. Maybe we don't feel it. I certainly don't. But it is lifting. Change is coming, change has happened, even if you feel it hasn't. God knows you, he know you to the very core. He knows me. He said I have a heart full of trembling fear. And I thought, no, that's not right. But I thought about it. And he's right. I am afraid. I am afraid every New Year will be the same as this last one, and the ones that have come before. I'm afraid of a lot of things. But the darkness is lifting. Have faith. Its hard, I know. But believe that your life is going to change. He has plans for you. Believe it. Believe in Him.

    January 1, 2013 at 11:02 am

  2. wombat

    this is a tragedy. Anyone can justify a perception, the accomplishment of change however can never be denied.

    January 1, 2013 at 2:52 pm

  3. cecily

    Hey wombat, perception is reality.

    January 1, 2013 at 7:35 pm

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  5. wombat

    tell that to the colorblind.

    January 2, 2013 at 1:37 am

  6. I love this. Though sometimes it's just as scary as it is reassuring to look back at our past. Sometimes I read through old journals and cringe at all the stupid things I said and did. But when I remember that I don't do (as many of) those stupid things anymore, obviously that's encouraging.

    January 2, 2013 at 10:36 am

  7. lizziebeth94

    This is beautiful. Thank you for reminding me to look back, remember, and appreciate change.

    January 2, 2013 at 2:13 pm

  8. hyelni mshelia

    its really great to learn to appreciate life for how it is,,i guess thats the wisdom we tend to miss. I think the simple word to get us all through live is contentment. Happy newyear everyone

    January 3, 2013 at 4:48 pm

  9. Kacie Lynn

    Oh, Lauren. I love this, everything about it. it's beautiful!

    January 4, 2013 at 7:57 pm

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