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What No One Told Me: The Best Parts

Editor’s Note: Today’s post is by Laura; she blogs over at Along For The Ride and tweets at @aftr_laura. It breaks my heart that we hear all the awful parts of marriage and so rarely the good. I love her list of the-best-parts-of-marriage. We are wrapping up our month’s topic on What No One Told Me About Marriage next Tuesday, and to celebrate, we are doing a giveaway for the book Love & War by John & Staci Eldredge. To enter, just leave a comment on the giveway post! June’s topic will be on Body Image, Beauty & all things related. If you want to share your story, email me at goodwomenproject[at]gmail.com! – Lauren


My husband and I have been married for almost two years. Although I had been dreaming about my wedding long before I ever met my hubby to-be, the moment I met him, the minute he asked me to be his wife, and the instant we took our vows, I knew that only one thing mattered… spending my life with Kyle.

Sure, looking back on these past two years, there are lots of things I wish someone would have told me:

Weddings are just as much about who is invited (and not invited) as the two people getting married. Sorry, that’s just the way it is.

The first few weeks/months are a honeymoon. Then reality sets in.

Save as much money as you can when you can. When you’re married there are way more important things to think about than what’s hanging in your closet.

Marriage is hard and it’s hard work. Then again, things that are worth it usually are.

Most of the sentiments I’ve ever heard tend to be a bit more on the negative side of things.  Even though they are well meant, when shared with new brides, they tend to burst a few bubbles, squash a few puffed up dreams, and bring a bride down.

In light of that, here are few more things I wish someone would have told me:

It’s an unbelievable feeling always having your best friend around.

Some of the greatest conversations are when you hardly say anything and just enjoy each other’s company.

Nothing beats waking up next to your hubby every day.

Don’t take yourselves too seriously.

It’s important to have date nights.

No screens (TV, computer, or otherwise) in the bedroom.

Sometimes you’ll want to go to bed mad, but always kiss before you fall asleep. You might still be frustrated, but at least you’ll go to bed knowing you’re loved.

Kiss your spouse like you mean it. My husband says that sometimes I give “pencil eraser” kisses…just little pecks. I’m working on this one.

Tell your spouse you love them. And truly mean it.

You know what? Marriage really is all that it’s cracked up to be. Sure there will always be tough spots because, with the joining of two imperfect people, things are bound to be a little imperfect.

After a few years of marriage and hopefully many more to come, I have found that marriage truly is, and truly can be, everything we dreamed of.


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8 Responses

  1. Thank you for sharing the positives of marriage! I like to think of it working in the way that Rob & Laura Petrie did (The Dick van Dyke Show)–never perfect by any means, but always striving to honestly love, communicate, and understand above everything else.

    October 27, 2011 at 11:45 am

  2. katie

    Thank you for sharing this. My fiance and I are getting married in something like 110 days, and I didn't realize until recently that I've been thinking about marriage as the bubble bursting in our relationship – like I should enjoy the feeling of sneaky stolen kisses now, because once we're married, my husband won't want to kiss me anymore. How terrible is that? My fiance is an incredible man who pursues me now harder than he did when he was trying to date me and I kept turning him down. Why would I believe it's all downhill from here? I HOPE it just keeps getting better!

    July 11, 2012 at 2:25 pm

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